If you’re ready to be with a man that has you on his mind all day, is counting down the days till your next date and is EXCITED to commit, this episode is for you.
Have you ever felt like you’re doing all the emotional heavy lifting in the relationship? Do relationships feel more like work than play? You know, he’s on your mind all day but it’s because you’re not sure if he likes you or what his intentions are and you find yourself wondering if he feels the way you do and it’s more of an anxious over-thinking. You’re always waiting for the next time he reaches out because his current rate of connecting never really feels like enough. You feel like you have to hold back on expressing how you really feel about him whether it’s with a fun text message to tell him he’s on your mind or with a fun date idea, for fear of looking too needy and fearing pushing him away. Or do you feel like you’re almost trying to prove that you’re the best woman for him by changing who you are, being over accommodating or overlooking red flags? Then this episode is for you.
I break down the difference between “selling yourself” and “helping him buy.” You’ll learn how to stop over-functioning, release control, and embrace pacing and proximity to foster mutual respect, trust, and attraction.
If you’re tired of chasing and ready to have a man who can’t wait to commit to, this episode is for you.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
– Why “selling yourself” to a man backfires and makes him question your value.
– How to help a man buy by guiding him to naturally recognize your worth.
– The role of pace, proximity, and liberty in creating a healthy relationship dynamic.
– Common mistakes women make in dating, like doing all the work or over-proving themselves.
– Practical strategies to shift from “proving your worth” to inspiring him to step up.
Key Takeaways:
1. Decisions Are Emotional: Men need to feel like they’re choosing you on their own terms, not being pressured into a relationship.
2. Pace & Proximity Matter: Slow down, maintain a healthy distance, and let him experience your value without rushing or overwhelming him.
3. Love & Liberty: Show care and affection, but give him the freedom to decide.
4. Let Him Test Drive: Just like a great car salesperson, let him experience the benefits of being with you without feeling forced to commit. No this does not mean give him your body. It means spend short amounts of time with him and allow him to feel what it’s like to be with you.
Reflective Questions for YOU:
– Am I trying to control the outcome of my relationships, or am I allowing him to step up and choose?
– Do my actions show confidence in my value, or do they convey insecurity?
– How can I shift my energy from “selling” to guiding and inspiring?
Journaling Prompts:
– “What would change if I stopped selling myself?”
– “How can I trust the process and let him buy?”
Action Steps:
1. Reflect on your dating behaviors—are you doing all the work?
2. Practice pacing by letting interactions unfold naturally without rushing.
3. Focus on your own happiness and fulfillment to project confidence and self-assuredness.
4. Start observing how men respond when you allow space and liberty in the relationship dynamic.
Resources Mentioned:
Timothy Jennings book – Could It Be That Simple?
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